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Marriage and Commitment Let us reiterate the fact that 'Man is a social animal'. So, to keep the society going there are several social institutions like marriage. Yes, marriage is essentially a social institute. For as long as we think of human existence marriage has been there. Perhaps it started with Adam and Eve. However, above all this, marriage is a life long commitment of love, respect and belongingness. It is the ultimate sacrifice of love, an entire life of commitment, and the true sign that you have and give unconditionally all of yourselves to that one person. Marriage is a big gamble. You are sort of taking chances of committing a lifetime to someone who might turn it into a joyous smooth journey or just simply make it a burden to carry. Marriage is not just part of the Karmic cycle giving a license to reproduce. It is a very important aspect of one's life. It is important to get married. Research shows that people who don't' get married at the right age or don't marry at all suffer from a kind of emptiness that leads to frustrations. With marriage comes family and with family comes responsibilities. These responsibilities effortlessly become the goal of life, giving direction to our work. Thus, it's a complete cycle, a sequential flow of facts of life. Like every relationship and aspects of life, marriage also has its own share of rough patches. But it is up to us as to how we keep this relationship going not just smoothly but also healthily blooming into a bond. The very foundation of any marriage is love. Now, love is out of mutual respect and trust. So, trust your spouse and most importantly respect him or her as an individual. Many times the spouses get too possessive. Every relationship has to have its own intimacy but at the same time allowance for a personal space is a must. Also, remember there would be times when both of you fight and find it just so impossible to stand each other. Even in these situations keep out the third party involvement. It is both of you who have to solve and keep the bond afresh. Arguments and fight are also important for a relationship to flourish since it rinses out hard feelings but never let it go out of hand. Do not get to the limit of bring in your egos. Don't let sex and intimacy die out. At times you can move away from being "Man and wife". Try to be those proverbial lovers. A touch here, a kiss there, and a few gentle caresses - all make up for momentary connections that draw you together. Sex should not be an activity, a mundane work part of daily routine, or once a day, once a week regime. Lot of foreplay and lot of sensitivity with lot of attention to what you both want and like and surely the fire is going to blow off the lids. You must spend as much time together as possible. Do a lot of thought sharing. Be proactive to each other's needs and desires. Do not argue on money. Do not ever fight in front of kids. Never hide anything from each other or develop a communication gap. Mix up all these small little recipes of great moments of togetherness and strong relation and you get a melange of a timeless bond and a relationship envied by many.
This article was posted on December 13, 2005
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